Balancing Act

I grew up in a household where my parents were very involved in my life which helped me grow into a woman with motivation and desire to accomplish tasks at the best to my ability.  However now that I am married and ready to start a family how do I tell my parents not to be involved in my life as much.  My husband and I have agreed to each other that we are going to do only 1 family event (either with his family or my family) per week.  My parents take this as he is controlling me and his parents have no problem with it. 
I do not like at all that my parents say he is controlling me, its not the truth if anything they (my parents) are still controlling me.  It shouldn't be this way! I want my space, I want to spend time with just my husband in our new home.  However my problem is that I can't tell this because I am afraid of disapointing them. 

They need to learn that I am an adult...a married adult who made a committment to my marriage and this marriage is my sole priority because with him I am at my happiest.